This is a brief note for an article to come: one of the great difficulties for a pastor and people ion general is to make sense of their own passion/suffering in such a way that they can relate it to the suffering of Christ, and walk humbly before him such that they come to relate his passion to theirs so that it becomes lived proclamation of The Good News we call The Gospel.
This is not hard. It is simply not taught because we have not learned to listen and the so called well, the righteous, those who are supposedly spiritually mature but are called to bear the burdens of others (Galatians 6: 8-10) stand aloof. We all fall prey to judging, the root of many problems (1 & 2 Corinthians). We are overwhelmed and the socio-economic-political landscape ensures that Grandparents will be too busy to enjoy or have capacity in caring for extended family.
More at a later time.